May 26

Porn Shame

George Carlin once commented that he couldn’t understand why prostitution was illegal. “Selling is legal,” he said, “and fucking is legal. So why isn’t selling fucking legal?”

People have sex every day – hell, several times a day if they’re lucky – and yet, a woman who has been in a pornographic video is shunned and denigrated by society as if she committed an egregious act of immorality against the world. Ironically, it is often the case that a female porn star has had a similar number of partners than an average woman of her same age and attractiveness. If she’s enjoying life and her youth, there’s nothing wrong with it, while if there’s a camera in the room, she’s a slut, whore, and a pariah to society.

When I was a young woman, I made the regrettable choice of entering the porn industry. If there is one thing about kids, it is that they often do not consider the effects of their decisions on the long term aspects of their life and the lives of others around them. At 18, a young woman isn’t likely to realize that what seems at the time a simple, rash decision could severely alter the course of her life. I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong. While I still don’t believe I did anything wrong, time has taught me that whether that is true or not, the consequences of that decision have affected and will continue to affect and haunt me, my family, and my friends for decades.

Recently, there have been a few incidents in the news involving young college freshmen who took a path similar to mine at that age. One, Belle Knox, while suffering negative consequences when her on screen activities were made public, has been able to overcome these pitfalls to own her situation and move forward as best she can. The other, Alyssa Funke, tragically committed suicide shortly after her involvement in the industry became known. While it is unclear just how much her “outing” as a porn performer had to do with her suicide, these events inspired me to share my thoughts and experiences with the world in the hopes that others may benefit, as I will as well.

As I write this, I honestly do not know what conclusions either you or I will draw as I post further thoughts and experiences from my recent past, but I think it is something I need to do. Perhaps it is something you need to read. Hopefully, we will all benefit from the experience.

I still fail to understand the benefit of stigmatizing those involved in the porn industry. It is again ironic that a huge majority of those who condemn porn stars are themselves consumers of porn. I cannot remember ever reading in a story about someone whose porn past was exposed (pardon the pun) anyone questioning how the person who discovered them happened to come across that material in the first place.

No, it is apparently perfectly acceptable for the “whistleblower” to spend his days surfing porn sites when he happens to recognize one of the performers, but it is the height of sin for the person who made the picture.

As George (may he rest in peace) continued, “of all the things you can do to a person, giving someone an orgasm is hardly the worst thing in the world.”

Not if you ask the (apparently Puritan) internet. We can’t have that. She must pay.

More later.